Contact

If you’re a reader, you can contact me at HeatherLKopp@gmail.com. I try to answer all emails, but I’ve stopped promising that. Sometimes I get overwhelmed or miss something. If I don’t answer and it’s urgent, please put the words URGENT in the subject line.

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73 thoughts on “Contact”

  1. Heather I am reading your book now and its awesome! I’m a mother of two trying to stay sober. Do the thoughts and guilt ever get better?

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  2. You are wonderful and courageous! You’re not alone either. I think many of us need to quit deeper 🙂 “Let go of what you are holding on to, so God can give you what He’s holding on to” (it’s a quote I heard some time ago).

    Bravo to you, Heather. What an awesome privilege you have. God has revealed to you, you’re purpose. I’m sure God is touching many lives through you… I know He touched mine today- Thank you!

    Angela M. Fisher

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  3. Help I just finished your book sober mercies. My son is I’m such big big trouble. I am over the top with worry. He is living with me drinking thirty beers a day.lost his children is angry self district ice. Etc. I am a mess scared and not hopeful. How do I except this. Stopy own control issues. Regain sanity. And keep him alive. Wa?? Thanks for listening. His behavior is scary. While I do know he is hurting feels un loved etc.. Right now he is leaving in hopes to be arrested so he can stop his own madness but as you know from your own experience with your son.. It is just to painful for me to bear. And I hurt till my heart cracks for his 8&10 year old kids. Whop e and need him!! Oh me. Thank you Jennie king

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    1. Oh, I’m so sorry to hear about your son. Yowsa, yowsa. I recognize the pain and panic in your voice so well. I wonder if you’ve gone to any Alanon meetings. It sounds so lame, but it can really, really help. It’s so hard for us to know how to help those we love who struggle with addiction. I hope you’ll keep reading, stay in touch, and let me know about your son. Praying for you today. Heather

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      1. Hi I am new to your site. I found you because my beautiful Mum gave me her copy of Charles Stanleys daily devotional from earlier this year and you had written a piece in it, I read it and then tonight when I came to bed I looked you up on google and so here I am on your sight! I have a long story too of course, I live in the very South of New Zealand. I was wondering if I have to sign up to be a part of your website and be able to comment on posts or talk to you?? I so would love to pick your brains because of all the things I would like to know is how do I fall in love with God? I was raised in a Christian family, I am born again, I am confused about God still at 45 not to mention angry at Him, I am a mother of 3 beautiful daughters and still married to Ian 23 years later LOL I am an addict both to alcohol and drugs. I shocked my family when they found me lying on the garage floor overdosed on my medication because I also have Bipolar 1 which changed my life 14 and a half years ago triggered by my 3rd pregnancy. All of these things I am genetically predispositioned to, LOL why me God?? I can handle all of that but what I can’t handle is that all these years I have known of God but I don’t know how to access God and have Him help me I like you have the answer to my problems but I don’t know how to use the answer?? Where do you suggest I start. I am going to try and find a copy of your book for a start. I have done AA, Salvation Army recovery programme, community and alcohol based program and physiotherapy. none of which have really helped and I know in my heart God is the only reliable help someone who will not let me down but I don’t really know what to do with Him. I feel like my prayers hit the roof. My prayer is always HELP or God I believe but help me to believe more! Sorry to post here I didn’t know where else to post, I really hope to hear from you because I believe somehow God lead me here to you. I don’t usually care much for Charles but Mum and Dad think he is the bee’s knees LOL but funny how I should this time think OK OK I will look at this devotional.(Mum has given me his devo’s more that once and they usual end up in the coffee table draw because I think Charles is too Holy to put in the fire) LOL sorry Charles. I will be here reading reading and reading some more, Thank you Heather Oh I have been clean and sober since the 20th of May this year when I woke up in Waikari our local Mental Hospital.

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  4. Heather, I found your book by doing a google search of “christian women alcoholics”!!! Led me to anarticle with a mention of your book. Read the sample and while it was so painful to read I saw where I was headed. So many things in common, parents divorce,hatred of step father, alcoholic father I always felt I had to save, also my greatest burden my son who is 24 and mentally ill who smokes pot all day and hates himself and life. I only started drinking 4 years ago and guess my alcohlic gene was just laying dormant. Sober now for 3 weeks by the grace of God but man is it tough. Especially now that our son is back living in our basement. I really want to numb out. But I know I can’t. So much more I would like to say but I’ll stop now. Thank you so much for writing your story. You have blessed and encouraged me.

    Kim

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      1. Valerie,
        I was so pleasantly surprised to get an email with your post! I need prayers and am so blessed you are going to pray for me. God is good.
        Kim

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  5. Hi Heather,
    After following and loving your blog, I finally bought a copy of your book the other week and I just finished reading it tonight. I loved it!! I read it in 24 hours and just couldn’t put it down. Thank you for being willing to so honestly (and articulately) tell your story. I found it interesting, inspiring and encouraging.
    God bless you
    Sarah
    x

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  6. Hi Heather, I am truly thankful God brought me to find your book. Standing on the “Christian Living Aisle at Barnes & Noble when your book popped out at me. I read the inside cover and knew in my heart I had to get this book. I have been searching for something like this for a very long time and to no avail until now. I walked out of the store not purchasing the book, but after a few days of having this urge to go back and get it I came across your blog yesterday after much googling because I didn’t remember the title of your book or your name. I praised God!!! Left work and immediately went and purchased your book. I know God is calling me to read it and can’t wait. I began this morning and my heart at Peace knowing someone else appears to have a story very close to mine. I already believe this book and your story is going to give me the exact hope I have been searching for with the Holy Spirits Power & Grace!! Thank You and Please keep me in your prayers!! God Bless You, With Love, Alicia

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    1. Alicia, what a wonderful note. Thank you SO much for writing it. I really, really hope the book speaks to your heart in some way. God is good at making that happen, though, isn’t he? I am anxious to hear what you think after reading. Do keep in touch, friend. And I will be praying for you, am praying right now. Best and hugs, Heather

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  7. Hi Heather!! Just finished reading your book that I picked up at the library YESTERDAY!! I too am a Christian who was hiding and self-medicating for many years. I am now just shy of 2 years clean. I look forward to being part of a blog that is so REAL and close to what my life is. In Christ’s Love, Lori

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    1. Lori, thanks so much for dropping me this note. And welcome to my blog and my messy life. If you blog, too–let me know where to find you. I just love connecting with women like you. 🙂 Keep in touch, and congrats on 2 years!! Yay!

      On Sun, Sep 22, 2013 at 5:28 AM, Heather Kopp

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  8. I bought your book too, I am having a very tough time getting though it. I thought I had dealt/dealing with things, but your opening page, waking up with the wrong pillow, then the sense of dread… it is hard to take my own guilt still… I am not yet 2 years sober but almost… Your chapter black out bottom uhga…. haven’t pick the book back up yet… it is all too real still I suppose. I have those days still of giving up…
    So I wanted to say, you are becoming a friend to this person here in Minnesota. Yesterday’s words were so true in my life now, I know He is there, just giving the time to wait, have some peace while waiting and trying to clear my mind to hear his voice,.. The other day you shared about having the blah’s, how you told that story, then said you were praying and God saying “take a hot bath and relax” oh, I cried for real, I am in that place every so often, for no apparent big reason either.. being my worst own critic, if I am not moving forward… making stride to be better… being what God intended me to be (in my own mind of course)… how can I even be happy? Just wanted to say thank you for stepping out and sorry I bundled all this together, kind of new to this.

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    1. I loved your bundling. I’m so glad you wrote. I appreciate hearing from readers, even when they are struggling to read my book. I so get it. I promise it gets better! Really, I do you hope finish. Let me know, okay? I am so grateful to have friend in Minnesota, bro. H

      On Tue, Jul 16, 2013 at 12:16 PM, Heather Kopp

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      1. So I am at work, (i heard you are on vacation, good for you, I just want to write this down so I don’t forget). Reading Sober Mercies, Picked it back up, little encouragement from you.. well I really been having a harder emotional week, So I am at work reading your book, chapter 4.. “toasting the truth”, holy smokes, I’m in the cafeteria starting to tear up, acting like nothing going on but I couldn’t continue the tears any longer, then the gusher.. I thought i have moved past these all over the board feelings but reading about your “first meeting” and “telling your kids”, hearing you describe your 2 kids, …you have such a way of getting me involved in your story..I had to put it down again.. I don’t know when I will be finishing this book.. taking so long, so many moments i am reliving though your words. Anyway thanks…

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        1. Blake, I’m sorry I’m just now responding. I am touched by your note here and clearly this is a raw topic for you and my book hit you hard emotionally. I hope you are feeling okay about it and were able to keep reading, especially since the hope and healing does eventually happen! Let me know, bro. Take care, Heather

          On Fri, Jul 26, 2013 at 1:04 PM, Heather Kopp

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  9. Heather,
    I really don’t remember how I crossed your path but I feel the urge to reach out to you. I just began reading your book and it is so crazy about the things I am relating to in your book. I have been tring to stop for the past few years. I don’t miss a day of work, I do stop for a few days and go through “My Detox Days” I call it. and as soon as I come out of it I unconsciously appear at home with a bottle of Jack Daniels in my hand – and once I start, I don’t stop until my mission is accompished, (wasted, then eat two tons of food, and pass out) Then the cycle begins again for a while. I wake up asking my wife, “Did I eat dinner last night?” “Did we have sex?” lol! I came to Christ when I was 20, I am 43 now and I beg for forgiveness and his strenth. I feel that I can do this with Christ but I have to break through that first barrier I guess and stop buying it. Well I won’t make my note too long but I just wanted to express to you that I am excited to continue reading your book and I really hope I can draw from your experience and apply them to myself. So far, So good. : ) -Chris

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    1. Chris, I’m so glad you took time to drop me this note. Oh man, I’ve been there. The “did we eat dinner?” “Did we have sex?” thing cracked me up because it’s exactly where I ended up. You’ll see if you keep reading. Let me know what you think when you’re done, okay? You’re so on your way, friend. Keep me posted. Heather

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      1. I loved the book, I relate so much to what you say in there. I asked my wife to read it also so she could “hear it from someone else” the exact things I have been saying. She is one of those people who can come home, have a few beers and relax in the tub and stop. I come home, have a drink, then drink it all, and her beers and then is asking for her to take me to the store. lol! That make me mad sometimes 🙂 But I am afraid I can’t seem to stop these actions and I am once again begging GOD for his forgiveness. I usually binge for a few days, then when I get physically sick I will stop and will go through hell for a few days, then when I feel better I start all over again…… I have looked and found a few AA meeting in the small town I live in. One is Celebrate Recovery in a church & the rest are small groups, one at the hospital and the few others I think are scattered at peoples homes in town. I am thinking about the Celebrate recovery for I want to go to something bible based but…….I am an extremely nervious and don’t want to see anyone I know there, or have it “get out” that I was seen at the meeting. Sounds stupid right? I can only handle being around a group of people when I am drinking also. I feel comfortable talking on here because; I guess, no one knows me. Well anyways – Thanks for letting me vent, lol! I am gonna try again on my own. I know I am gonna have to surrender and ask for help but I am being stubborn. Thank you so much for expressing yourself to us out here on your blogs 🙂 -Chris

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        1. Chris, I’m so glad you read my book. I so understand not wanting the news to “get out.” You might discover that eventually you don’t mind. Once you get sober and in recovery the shame fades and the relief grows and pretty soon you want to share your discovery with the world. At least, that was how it was for me. Might not happen that way for you, but I encourage to find a community that can help you! I know so many alcoholics who were bingers and so it took them a longer time to get into recovery because they didn’t have to drink every day. If CR works for you, I’ll be so glad for you. I am not about promoting any one program, but you could probably tell in the book that I’m in AA and I LOVE it. Please keep me posted on how it goes for you, and come by and say hi again here on my blog sometimes. Thanks again, Heather

          On Mon, Jul 22, 2013 at 1:26 PM, Heather Kopp

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  10. I was wondering if you have a support group here in Colorado Springs. I am new to the area and haven’t found my “tribe” as of yet. You sound like someone I would like to know. 🙂

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    1. Mary Beth! I attend 12 step meetings, but I can’t tell if you’re an alcoholic. Welcome to town, friend. I was so lonely when I moved here. It’s hard to start all over, and I don’t know what I would have done without recovery as a way to make friends and meet people. I’m so glad you reached out to me. Tell me more about yourself and maybe one day we can have coffee. Hugs, Heather

      On Fri, May 31, 2013 at 12:25 PM, Heather Kopp

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  11. Hi Heather. Thank you for your response and recommendation of attending Alanon. Well, I have gone to Alanon meetings and even Celebrate recovery. I know these groups are a great support for many, but not for me. I don’t want to discourage anyone from attending meetings because they should try to see if it is a fit.

    During this season of praying and waiting, I found it necessary to find out all I can about addictions through books and listening to podcasts. I know now that it’s not a matter of saying to my son, “why don’t you just stop!”. It so much more complicated and I found that out through my research and study. My quest to be knowledgeable on what is going on in the addicts brain has helped me tremendously. Although, I wish there was a manual for myself and what to do or not do in response to my sons use. (I think this is where co-dependent meetings come in?).

    There are a couple of things that I didn’t get a chance to disclose in my first comment to you for not wanting to take up a full page. My husband is an alcoholic (in denial) and our son lives with us. A lot of my time goes into trying to keep the peace while insanity is all around me.

    I would so love for you to write/blog on the addicted and give insight to those of us who love and help them (or maybe enable is a better word?).

    Again, thank you for your responses! I also enjoy reading your blog–it makes me smile!

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    1. Maria, thanks for this response. I understand your confusion around how to handle all the “insanity,” and it really is. You really have your hands full. I will be praying for you and yours and yes, I’m hoping to post more about these issues in the coming weeks. I so appreciate your encouragement and hope you’ll stick around and keep reading. All the the best, Heather

      On Thu, May 30, 2013 at 12:41 PM, Heather Kopp

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  12. Thank you for staying true to Recovery. Many churchians under grow recovery from drugs and alcohol. They become cross addicted to religion, work addiction, love addiction, and co-dependent while arrogantly condemning us who are called to church basements ministry. I have experienced the heights of Agape and power of the Holy Spirit in more basements than sanctuaries. “But for the Grace of God there go I.” Every time I was “set free,” “delivered,” and “overcame,” I relapsed (slipped forward). Today I am Saved and Holy Spirit filled one day at a time in recovery. I praise the Lord for your faithfulness.

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    1. Ed,
      My ?? to “church people” is quite simple: “So, what’s the name on your bottle?”. We are blessed to know what ours is. Mine was alcohol, and I’ve walked the walk for over forty years, sober a day at time, as we’re fond of saying. I hope you continue w/your church ministry, but also hope you’re faithful to a 12th Step Program, enabling you to be real with people outside the church atmosphere.

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      1. I praise Jesus for your walk. We started a weekly Bible recovery fellowship to supplement AA members seeking the rest of the story. We cannot improve or replace AA. It is ordained. The only possible weakness in AA is the lack of mature Christian mentoring. The program was initiated by this element. I am deeply saddened to see and hear churchians ridicule and condemn AA out of ignorance. AA is prime, fertile, ground for Christians to love the hell out of drunks. That is how this drunk got “Amazing Grace” saved 34 years ago. A man led me to the cross with his mouth shut. Actions do speak louder than words.

        The Lord told me I get to keep my sobriety only as I give it away. Christ is the answer to the addiction problem. AA is an instrument for ministry. Most Tuesday evenings I am in our Recovery Bible Fellowship to give it away. I dont go alone. My car or van is usually full. Most Wednesdays the Lord allows me to lead a Recovery Bible study 7-8 to prepare for the Big meeting at 8-9pm with Bill’s friends to give it away. Thursday evenings the Lord has me leading a Christ centered outpatient treatment group 5-8pm to give it away. Most Sunday mornings the Lord has me teaching an adult recovery Sunday School class to give it away. At 11am He has me lead a worship service to celebrate our relationship with Him and preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ. In the past year and a half the Lord has allowed our team to minister to over 300 unchurched drunks/addicts. My most important work is to not get in the way of what He is doing.

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        1. Oh my. You are doing such fabulous work! I am so glad you wrote to tell me about it. I agree so much with what you’re saying here, especially the line about how our most important work is to stay out of God’s way. Bless you on your journey and thanks so much for taking time to encourage me! Heather

          On Thu, May 30, 2013 at 11:24 PM, Heather Kopp

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          1. Ed, Slow down, you’re making the rest of us look bad! Seriously, you are a recovery machine. I relapsed smoking recently and reading your gorgeous words has been kind of a bop upside the head: Recovery Is Work. We WORK the steps. Sometimes I forget. Thanks for the reminder. Heather–you’re the bomb. Keep comin’ back darlin.’ We need your voice and this nice space you have created. Ed, you’re an inspiration. God bless you both. Thanks. Please pray for my jump back on the no-smoke wagon. I’ll surely pray for you all.

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  13. Heather-
    I just found your website through my” LIfe Today, with James & Betty Robison” email. What an incredible gift the Lord has given you to write! Thank you for being obedient to the call!

    I have been reading your blogs for a couple of hours now and have found treasures that are like a balm to my soul. You see, my son, who will be 22 next week is struggling with a drug addiction for years now. I can’t believe it, but as I count how many years, it is 5 years! How time flies when we are on the insanity go-round.

    I have had a revelation today. My son is not ready for sobriety. I have been in a state of denial thinking that if I did everything I can, he will get ready. Not so.

    I am tired emotionally and physically. I have laid him on God’s alter (for the umpteenth time) today. I hope I make it through the day without pulling him off again.

    I was hoping for that miracle that comes down from Heaven and delivers him in the way like in the 10 Commandments. I guess that’s now how God wants to do it. I guess I will keep my suggestions to myself.

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    1. Maria, I’m suggesting that you go to Alanon, the group for people who are affected by alcoholism. This group will place you where you need to be: looking at your own life, and learning, a day at a time, to take the focus off your son. I’m writing as a woman sober for over 43 years, with an alcoholic son. If you’ll do what Alanon suggests to you, you’ll have a new freedom and joy in your life!

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    2. Maria, this is Heather. The other helpful response was from a fellow reader and commenter. I love when readers reach out to each other and try to help each other. I agree that Alanon is a great fit for you. But I also just wanted to tell you how grateful and honored I am that you shared your story here and that I ache for you and will pray for your son. I am so glad you found comfort and hope in various posts here. I want to write more about this topic of having a loved one addicted. I hear from so many who struggle with this. And I sure did for SO many years with my own son. But there is hope. There is always hope. And I encourage you to keep checking back here and keep me posted on your situation and whether or not you try Alanon. Some people also like Codependant anonymous. I am in favor of what works. Bless you friend, Heather

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  14. Hi Heather,

    My wife, Kathy, has forwarded a number of your posts to me over the months. Your voice is direct and candid and speaks to this generation (or at least to me). It also definitely reveals that you’re a seasoned editor. So it shouldn’t have come as a surprise while reading Joshua Harris’s “Sex is not the problem (lust is)” to see you praised in the acknowledgments. I can see your fingerprints on that little gem of a book. Your story and your work is a blessing to others!

    Scott Jones

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      1. Hi Heather,

        I have never blogged before so I’m not sure if you are even getting this. I am one of those technically challenged folks. Today I saw you share your testimony on Christian television and I was so encouraged. I had been praying that someone would shed more light on this topic of addiction especially for Christians. I am a Christian as well and am presently in the pit of addiction. I just recently made the decision to surrender my will to God and ask for his healing. I too prayed for a miraculous deliverance but it didn’t come. I am now waiting to see which Rehab God will place me in hopefully tomorrow. I am terrified but for the first time in a long time I have real hope. Please pray for me. I have tried to stop on my own but just couldn’t do it. I have asked for help now. I would love to know how God helped you through the detoxing which is so painful and hard. I pray that God gives me the strength to endure it. Thanks again for your life and testimony and for giving me more hope today!

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        1. Kimberly, I am getting this. 🙂 I’m so excited for you that you’re going to rehab tomorrow! Yay! I will absolutely pray for you. For me, the willingness to reach for help made all the difference in the world. Community is healing and I hope after you get out that you’ll get involved in a recovery community. Detoxing in my case was mild, in part because they did a medical detox, which simply means that they gave me meds (valium) to help with the withdrawal. But even without that, you’ll probably do just great. It’s such a fun, strange, and amazing experience in rehab that you kind of forget about drinking–plus, you’re out of your usual routines. I can’t wait to hear how it went. Yay for more HOPE! God is good. Heather

          On Mon, May 27, 2013 at 9:26 AM, Heather Kopp

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      2. Hi Heather…Early this morning I couldn’t sleep as usual so I turned on the TV and saw you and heard about the last 15 min of the show; I’m so glad I did….I am also in this terrible pit and have been for quite a very long while; and I want this to stop; it is affecting so many areas of my life, including my marriage; the terrible things that have come out of my mouth; things you can’t take back….I would like to turn my life around and become well without going to rehab….(I know, who wouldn’t)…do you know of any resources, or suggestions so I can do it this way?
        I hope you are getting this; I’ve never blogged before

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        1. Susie, I’m so glad you wrote! It sounds like it was a God thing. I relate so much to what you wrote here and if you do read my book, you’ll see why. Your comment about wanting to get well without rehab cracked me up because I was the same way. Are you willing to try a recovery group? I highly recommend AA, or if you would prefer an explicitly Christian group, you might try Celebrate Recovery. I have a post on the site about the difference. I do so hope that you will keep in touch and let me know what happens with you, Susie. Warmly and hugs, Heather

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  15. hello. just 2 weeks ago someone who cares about me, my faith and my, in 6 days 7 months of recovery. I truly felt like you were talking to me about your writing on how maybe I’ m doing as good as I’ m able. Not your exact words but it really hit home. I just got my kindle for my birthday 2 no. ago and not able to figure it out, yet… I’ m very interested in inspiring words of reality, recovery thru Christianity, as my life, and eturnity literally depends on it. Currently I’m dealing with serious doubt and I’m sure unforgiveness from my 3 adult kids.I’ d a complete idiot to even blame them. I would really appreciate any words of advice and encouragement from you! Thank you. Bernice

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    1. Bernice,
      Oh thank you so much for this inspiring note. I am sorry I’m just now responding. I hope you will keep reading. And I’m so glad that the piece you spoke of touched your heart. It did that for quite a few people. Obviously, most of us don’t give ourselves enough credit or compassion. I hope you are involved in a recovery group, and that you have a sponsor who can help you take the steps. Feel to drop me a line anytime, okay? Congratulations on your recovery! The best is yet to come.

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  16. Hi, Heather.
    I just stumbled onto your blog — it really caught my eye because I, too, had grown up knowing God, long before my addiction completely took over. I remember so many slurred prayers for delivery, even though I had distanced myself from Him. I later realized he had, in fact, answered my prayer, but it involved something I didn’t want anything to do with: cleaning up my own mess; manning up to my situation, entering rehab and getting serious. It was in rehab one night that a sincere, long-overdue prayer brought a physical/emotion touch (literally) from Him that I will NEVER forget. That was more than 9 months ago. He has answered my request for another day of sobriety every day since then. This time, I’m never letting go, because I know He will never, ever fail me. Life is good!!

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    1. What a wonderful note to start my day! Thanks so much for taking time to write and sharing a bit of your story. You sound like a kindred soul. I hope you’ll come back again–especially when I get back to blogging, hopefully soon–and say hi. Let’s stay connected. Congratulations on 9 months! Yay! Hugs, Heather

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  17. Hi, Heather,

    I found you through a comment on another blog and was intrigued by the name “sober boots”. My mom was an alcoholic who lost her battle 2 years ago yesterday and died during a relapse. I am drawn to stories of others who are battling (and winning especially). Thanks for your honesty. I will share it with others who are in the trenches with you. I wish I could have had it when my mom was going through it. It helps to know you’re not alone.

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  18. Heather, awesome honesty and writing! Bless you. I’m a Brit, and the sister, cousin, wife and mother to addicts. Three dead (overdoses) and two recovering. My younger brother committed suicide on Good Friday, ’09 – it’s been hell.

    But I also played my part in helping provide reasons for my two men to drink, I now recognise.

    In my own family, it took a terrible attack last year to make us all wake up. Thank God we did! We’re all slowly healing, and our son is doing just great. I learnt, too late, that my great grandfather drank away the family farm, so it’s in the genes. And of course, alcohol is sold everywhere and provides great revenues for all governments, so there’s not as much done about it as could be! British culture celebrates heavy drinking. You’re not having fun unless you’re ‘lashed’

    The AA’s serenity prayer is beautiful, and I prefer to pray for my two men, let them make their own decisions and solve things on their own. Only offer an opinion when asked.

    Jesus has really helped me. I’m also a prophetic dreamer, and I was forewarned about my brother’s suicide and also the fight here at home. Jesus promised to rescue the two men, and he is. They’re both agnostics, but they know that I pray for them both.

    Anyway, I hope to get an agent for my book. I want to combine it with the stories of families I’ve met the past six years who used tragedy to transform their lives. Truly, God loves the messiness of us all, and He wants the best for us, so that we can use our lives to worship and help others, in the ways our skills enable.

    God bless,

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    1. Annette, I’m embarrassed to write you back, but I just now saw this comment from my “contact’ page on my blog. Just wanted you to know that I appreciate so much your taking the time to write. I hope you got an agent for your project and I”d love to hear how it turned out. Yes, God loves the messiness of us all, and I can tell you are beautiful mess yourself. 🙂 Love your spirit. Keep in touch.

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  19. I found you from a FaceBook posting of a friend’s – i’m so glad i did. My husband and I own and small non profit where we, along with a lot of great friends, serve the homeless a meal at the local riverbed. We have done this for 3 years and thus have developed some great relationships with these men and women. In 2012 we would like to see many of them get off the streets but before they can, they have to get sober. We are praying for many successes but we realize there will be many disappointments. Thank you for your ‘sobering’ blog. Addictions have so many different faces – some more obvious than others. But lives are destroyed by it and we are seeing the end of the road for so many who chose to stay in their addictions.

    I’m not sure what I think about your comment that alcoholism is a mental illness but it surly makes sense.

    Thank you! i will keep reading your post

    Julie Cruz
    LifeHouse Ministry of Orange County

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    1. Julie, today I am discovering a bunch of very old comments on my contact page that I didn’t know were there. And yours was one, from way back in April of Last year! Just wanted to apologize and tell you that I am so grateful to people like you doing the work you do. I’d love hear from you again sometime and learn more about your ministry and if you’re still at LifeHouse. Thanks for taking time respond to me about my blog.

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  20. Heather, I just found RAW. It’s great! I always want a little more of the real you. Like several other readers have said, I relate to a lot of what you say, especially about fear or difficulty being vulnerably honest rather than just truthfully honest. God is giving you grace to do this. It’s brave. It helps.

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    1. Aw, yes, Raw. I have a couple times almost abandoned it, but I find myself enjoying it for some odd reason. I think I like to write in a space where it doesn’t matter if I perform or succeed or impress. I get to offer it to readers just in case something I say strikes them, but I don’t have to feel like it “delivers” in the same way my posts do. And yet, of course, some people have told me they prefer it! Funny, huh? Thanks so much for being a friend, Barb. Drop an email sometime and tell me how you are. Hey, if you’re gonna read RAW you kind owe me a peek into your life, too.:)

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  21. Hi Heather, you are more amazing to me after reading your blog. I knew you had a gift but had no idea! You my friend are a treasure and I am so greatful to have you in my life! Love you sister.
    Kathy
    P.S. This is obviously my first try at blogging, hope I did it right 🙂

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  22. I discovered your blog on Valentines Day and your post about forgiveness really spoke to my heart – since then I have read a lot of your past posts and I love your writing; not only is it insightful, but comes with the depth of experience only one has has ‘walked the path’ can truly have. It gives me hope to read your story and what progress you have made over the past four years.
    My Dad is an alcoholic and even though he went through rehab and has been sober for almost three years; it’s like something is broken in our lives and our family and I don’t know if anything will ever go back to ‘normal’, or at least how I remember it.. During rehab my mum found out that my dad had been cheating on her for the last nineteen years of their marriage, and even knowing this, she has chosen to stay with him, support him, and try to forgive him and make their marriage work. My sister and I have struggled with our own path to forgiveness, but I don’t even know where to start and how to re-build a relationship with someone I don’t feel I know anymore. Things were made easier for me as I have been working in Europe and and haven’t been home for some time (my family is in New Zealand), but next week I am flying home to stay with my parents for five weeks. My dad has recently has some serious health problems and it made me realise I don’t have all the time in the world to try and change things, but I don’t know how to go about it. We never talk openly about his addiction – he never brings it up and I think everyone else is worried about upsetting him but I would like to try opening up some communication while I am at home. Although obviously I realise every situation is different, any ideas about where to start would be much appreciated.

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    1. Anonymous, you are one of many comments I missed on my “contact” page last year. I didn’t even know people could comment here then. I just want you to know that your response here touched me and that now I wonder how it went with your dad. I’m not sure if you still read my blog, but I am so sorry that I didn’t respond to your request for ideas about where to start with communication while you’re at home. Ack. Please forgive. I usually try to answer every response and especially ones as personal as yours.

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  23. Hi Heather,
    Because Wendy posted your blog on FB I found you and my old friend Dave Kopp! I started working for Dave at Warner Pacific College in the 70’s…yikes! I really enjoyed the honesty of your post…and the fact that you responded to each comment is wonderful. Dave will tell you that I’m not particularly impressed with fluff…thanks for the lack of it. I hope to get to know you better and reconnect with Dave. It’s been too long. I’m thrilled he has a partner like you!

    Christine Thomas

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    1. Thanks, Christine!I love responding to comments. The best part by far. The funny thing is that I went
      into this blog thing kicking and screaming. And now I really love it. So many wonderful people. So many
      who hurt, too. The 70’s. Yes, I agree. Yikes. What happened? How did we all get so old? I would love to
      hear from you again, too. I will show Dave your comment. It’s so fun to hear from old and almost friends.

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  24. Heather, I don’t know you, but I sort of know your husband and my nephew Marcus Brotherton is a good friend of his. I went to Multnomah and knew other members of the Kopp family. So, long story short my husband and I spent 30 years in the pastorate and in both situations were “fired” or “released”. The second time it was after 26 years in a church we raised our kids in and helped to start. We both worked there (I resigned). Anyway, this blog post is really helpful to me and knowing that “no matter what” kind of faith is what got us to move forward and now we are serving God in Guatemala. But, my faith was certainly rocked and I so appreciate you writing honestly and openly about your pain and process. I hope someday someone will write a book about the horrible ways pastors are often treated. Thanks you

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    1. Wendy, write that book! Thanks so much for your feedback. So you have a long history
      with the Kopps. They are such a wonderful family. It sounds like you have been through so
      much hard stuff. I am so glad that even though your faith was rocked you’re hanging on. I had
      to sort of lose my faith in alcoholism before I could refind it again. I hope you’ll keep reading
      and stay in touch. And give Marcus our love. Heather

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